In our class on positive reinforcement we discussed ways that we can boost our child’s self-esteem. The Moms in the class decided to write their children a note. They would describe all the positive things the child had done that day.
Here are two examples of the notes that were written to their school aged children:
Dear Carrie,
I had a great day with you today. Thank you for unloading the silverware from the dishwasher and putting it in the drawer. I noticed that you cleaned up the videos that you had taken out after I asked you only once to put them away. While we were at the library you were very excited to sign up for the reading program. I had to finish checking all our books out. It was very hard for you to wait patiently while I did that, but you did wait patiently. You were very polite, saying please and thank you to the librarian when we finally did sign up for the reading program. I also noticed that when you teased your brother and I told you to that “teasing hurts” you stopped right away. I appreciate all that cooperative behavior.
I love being your Mommy,
Love, Mommy
Dear Adam,
Yesterday you acted in a very mature way. You looked for the library books that needed to be returned and put them in a neat pile in the kitchen. You said, “Mommy, get me my lunch!” I asked you to add a “please” to your request and you did it. That is very hard to do, to respond to a direct command. You showed respect to me and you should be very proud of yourself. You did not want to go to the store but you went anyway. You helped Lauren pick out goggles and you picked out ice cream you thought Daddy would like. Also, when I asked you to get off the computer, you did.
I really appreciate all the hard work you did in trying to behave and get along with your siblings.
I love you very much.
Mommy
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Adina